How to Get Your Partner On Board with Minimalism

... without being pushy and annoying

Embracing minimalism is not easy. If anything, it’s the opposite, in the beginning at least. 

So once people finally make the leap to a minimalist lifestyle, they reach a point where they can’t stand clutter whatsoever. They love a neat and tidy household with no junk lying around — which is great because that’s what minimalism is all about.

Unfortunately, for some people, things end up in an awkward situation. 

On one hand, they can’t stand a cluttered household to the point where it causes them physical discomfort. Their significant other, on the other hand, loves to hold on to everything — from ancient jackets to broken gadgets to dusty envelopes. 

Does that sound like your relationship? 

Now before you brand your partner a borderline hoarder and unleash your anger, take a step back and relax. 

There’s a lot you can do to help your partner see the importance of living with less. So without any further ado, let’s explore the different ways you can get your SO on board with minimalism. 

1. Help Them See Why

Before anything else, you should help them see why minimalism matters and what they stand to gain. 

For instance, by investing in quality and cutting back on quantity, not only will they be able to declutter their life but they’ll save money as well. By letting go of needless items, they can make some money by putting those items on sale. Perhaps most importantly, they’ll feel far more relaxed and fulfilled when they won’t have to deal with decision fatigue from too many choices. 

You can learn more about the benefits of a minimalist wardrobe here

2. Tell Them How It Makes You Feel

When you started your journey down the path of minimalism, you probably had an abundance of items and expenses yourself. Or perhaps you’ve always been repulsed by clutter and excess. 

Whichever the case might be, you have to understand that your partner may not be the same. For some people, clutter is just a part of life and they’re not bothered by it whatsoever. A person who’s a natural hoarder may lack the awareness to realize how it makes you feel. 

The solution? It’s simple. Let them know how it makes you feel. Let them know how stressful and chaotic you feel and how it’s making it impossible for you to relax in your own home. 

If you can convey your feelings effectively, your partner may just surprise you. 

3. Lead by Example

Actions speak louder than words. As cliche as that phrase is, you should take it to heart if you want to make your SO a minimalist. 

So before you even think about decluttering your partner’s items, look inwards and see what actions you can take to show them how great decluttering truly is. 

In other words, show them how amazing a minimalist wardrobe is by going through your own closet first. Show them how much money and energy you’re saving by letting go of needless items. 

Those solid actions are far more powerful and effective than preaching minimalism ever will be. 

4. Declutter Together

Finally, it’s time to get rid of those unnecessary items. But before you get carried away, let’s start with an obvious warning: 

Never, under any circumstances whatsoever, should you throw away something that either belongs to your partner or is used by the both of you. 

If you get rid of something without their permission, you will lose their trust along with it. The next time you feel the urge to throw all their “junk” away, resist that urge and try to see it as something other than junk. 

When it comes to decluttering, getting your partner’s input and going through everything together is the key. Work with them. Weigh the pros and cons. And once you reach a mutual agreement, feel free to discard those items. 

You can learn more about responsibly decluttering your wardrobe here.

Become an Honest Salesperson to Sell Minimalism to Your Partner

Great salespeople succeed where others fail because of their honest approach. They understand what the prospect is struggling with and then introduce them to a solution that actually works. Above all, they never make the prospect uneasy with pushy tactics. 

Just like a salesperson, you need to sell minimalism to your partner. They’ll only embrace it if they believe in it. That’s where you can help by putting on your honest salesperson hat. 

Selling minimalism to your partner is all about understanding their needs and then showing them how minimalism can help them fulfill those needs. The key here is showing rather than telling — and the best way to show is by practicing minimalism yourself first.

However, despite your best intentions and efforts, your partner may continue to resist minimalism. And that’s alright. 

To overcome resistance, give your partner some space and help them start with a tiny step, something so ridiculously easy they can’t help but say yes to it. 

From there, it’s all a matter of cheering them as they make slow but steady progress towards a life of living with less. You’ll be surprised by the power of steady progress coupled with positive reinforcement. 


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